Chocolate Covered Reasons.

Way back in 2014 I started this blog after deciding it was time to leave Facebook where I ran a similar site but with many more members. Sometimes what we start in one place doesn’t always translate well in another. I had to be prepared for that. When I started here I did so with the following explanation.

About The Buthidars

The Buthidars is a religion free Order where people of all ages, colours and creeds can come together as one all-inclusive group united towards seeing peace in the world.
You will hear ( from me ) about Hugs as I maintain you can’t hug with a weapon in your hands.
You will see the reason I think Hugs are important to us as people, ourselves and others.
You will I hope learn to understand why I ask people to leave religion at the door as they visit and if they still need it, to collect it at the door as they leave. So now you will see, as I promised why I use hugs at the end of posts and when I comment on a blog I visit,

The Buthidar Hugs

The Reasons we should hug.
When we hug, we receive an energy feedback. We bring life to our senses and
reaffirm the trust in our senses. Sometimes we CANNOT find the right words
to express how we feel, and then hugs are the best way to say it.
We need four hugs a day to survive, eight to preserve ourselves, and twelve to
grow. A hug makes you feel good. The skin is the biggest organ we have and it
needs a lot of love. A hug can cover an extensive part of the skin and provides
the massage you need. It is also a way to communicate. It can convey
messages for which you have no words. We can always resort to the universal
language of hugs.
The Power of Hugs Hugging achieves many things that you might never have
imagined. For example:
It feels good
It dissolves solitude
It defeats fear
It opens the door to sensations
It improves self-esteem (wow, he or she wants to hug me!)
It encourages altruism (I can’t believe it, but I want to hug that person)
It delays aging (those who hug age more slowly)
It helps reduce appetite (we eat less when we are nourished with hugs and
when our arms are wrapped around others)
More benefits from hugs:
It is environmentally friendly (it does not damage the environment)
It preserves energy
It is portable and requires no additional machinery
It does not require a special place to do it (an adequate place to hug)
In any place such as a conference room, a church or a football field
It makes happy days even happier
It gives us a sense of belonging
It fills the void in our lives
It is still effective even after the hugging has finished
It strengthens and increases our ability to share
It harmonizes the hearts of friends
Hugging creates some form of addiction to tenderness, to altruism, to
Just as laughter, it is highly contagious! Whatever your hug may be, let it
always come from the heart, not from the mind.
Come up with new ways of hugging.
Give your hugs interesting or funny names.
Become a full-time “hug therapist.”
Be always ready to offer a hug to someone.
Observe the other person and always be careful of his or her personal space.
A hug does and says very much.

My great hope when I moved to WordPress was that I could slowly create an order across the World that would perhaps equal the Order of St. Lazarus to which I belong. An order where there would always be someone willing and able to offer help wherever you are. An order where kindness is not just a word but a way of life. I want this to be the lesson we teach our children as we try to preserve the world to give them a future. In celebration of which I’d hoped to start with uniting people across the world in making as many people’s day special with a hugathon but the take up was pretty small and student bodies weren’t interested. If I’d only managed to convince enough people that they could work miracles in their own countries and perhaps their knowledge alone could help people in another. I want to stop FGM and forcing children as young as 12 from being forced to marry much older men. This latter I thought was peculiar to third world Countries but I found it was not. People have life skills they can use to help others or pass on to them. People whose marriages have broken up and they don’t know where to turn. There’s no problem that someone doesn’t know how to solve. I’m 70 years of age now and I haven’t given up hope yet. I know many of my friends on here share my wishes in one form or another and have shown exceptional kindness to others and for that I thank them. Together we can change the world.

Huge Hugs.


About davidprosser

Retired Local Government Officer who started to write at age 60 and hasn't looked back. Writes a humorous diary on the life of a member of the gentry.......and the village he lives in with his sadistic early morning alarm cat Oscar and his wife the formidable Lady J. Oscar even has his own book now, but the writing has stopped.
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34 Responses to Chocolate Covered Reasons.

  1. jilldennison says:

    So beautifully written … I’m with you on this journey, for I have lots of hugs to give, believe in the same things you do, and love getting hugs, as well. I shall start right here … Huge Hugs.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. I trust virtual hugs are just as valuable in these Covid times. Hugs…

    Liked by 4 people

    • davidprosser says:

      But of course. They can be enjoyed now but can also be exchanged for the real thing as soon as we are declared free to mix and mingle .If you ever find yourself in my part of Wales I’ll be happy to issue bonus ones.

      Liked by 2 people

  3. TanGental says:

    Words of wisdom from the Hugster, please. At present I’m alone in the house with two painters and decorators who are prepping the windows. When I leant out of the attic window just know to offer tea and a hug, he said if it was all the same could we keep our relationship at the dash of milk and two sugars phase, please . Should I (a) press the case on the accompanying hug, (b) offer a chocolate bonbon instead or (c) press on with the hug and risk a defenestration? Huge hugs from here.

    Liked by 1 person

    • davidprosser says:

      With all the stress, strains and now suspicions of being in an atmosphere of decoration, I suggest you stand at the end of the drive by your gate .You can offer your hugs to anyone receptive. Suggest he/or she be happy to hug at least one person in their vicinity within the next hour or at least two during the day with the same proviso. You’re splash of milk and two sugars loses out for now but may be better tomorrow when he regales you with stories of is miserable night in the pub. Never, never risk defenestration, you lose your window to the soul.

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  4. inavukic says:

    Nice post David ❤ Hugs are the main currency for peace. So agree!

    Liked by 1 person

  5. merrildsmith says:

    Hugs, David!
    (And thank goodness for vaccinations, so I can hug and be hugged by some people I’ve missed.)

    Liked by 1 person

  6. Scottie says:

    Hello David. Warm return hugs for you. Hugs

    Liked by 1 person

  7. jilldennison says:

    Reblogged this on Filosofa's Word and commented:
    Hugs. Such a simple thing, and yet such a powerful one. Imagine a world where people set aside their superficial differences and treated everyone with respect. Imagine a world (post-pandemic, obviously) where people hug each other … just because. Our friend David started his blog, The Buthidars, back in 2014 for all the right reasons, but I’ll let him explain that to you. Every now and then, Filosofa needs to set aside the politics, the social injustice, and just post something positive. I can’t think of anything more worthy of that than David’s Buthidars, so please, give yourself a bit of a break and head over to talk to David about hugs!

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  8. suze hartline says:

    wow. I’ve been a Buthidar for years and never knew it! I am a tends to drive some people crazy but I can’t seem to help myself. I see someone sad or depressed looking and I am immediately wanting to hug them. Since we have such stupid laws (and some people) here i always ask “do you need a hug and can I give you one?”. It’s amazing what a simple hug can do for everyone. I do draw the hugging line though at anyone who still believes the cheeto is our president. Just can’t do it.

    Liked by 2 people

    • davidprosser says:

      Always more than Happy to meet fellow Buthidar Suze, our skills have been getting a bit rusty as of late except by the virtual kind that just don’t convey enough warmth. The effects of a real hug can be astounding. I can see how you’d feel about those who believe in the cheeto, but bit by bit we can bring them into the light and remove the blindfold.
      Sending Massive Hugs

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  9. Excellent post, David. Virtual hugs are great. I’m just not sure I can return to the carbon-based hug again. Well, we will see as more and more people get vaccinated. Hugs to you.

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  10. sklawlor says:

    what a great post

    Liked by 2 people

  11. Keith says:

    Thanks David. My wife is a huge hugger, so the pandemic has made her feel awkward. Hugs do a lot as you note. Thanks for your welcoming writing and comments on other blogs. Keith

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    • davidprosser says:

      Thanks so much Keith and hello to your wife, my fellow hugger. I feel sorry for children who grow up without the joy of parents who cuddle and hug for sometimes they don’t find out just how important it is. I was lucky and had a special Aunt and a Grandmother (Nana) who educated me and I’ve had the joy of passing the knowledge on. Just call me teacher.

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  12. pendantry says:

    Do the Buthidars welcome tree-huggers?

    Liked by 1 person

    • davidprosser says:

      We certainly do. Conservation of the planet and it’s resources for future generations is important and trees need to know they’re loved too. Basically, few hugs are ever wasted.
      Huge Hugs

      Liked by 1 person

  13. acflory says:

    Hugs from DownUnder as well. 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

  14. Glad to know you’re blogging again, David! Sending hugs.

    Liked by 1 person

    • davidprosser says:

      I’m trying Margaret. A few medical hiccups which I hope are over now give me a restart. I hope your new fur baby brings you as much love and joy as your beautiful boy did.
      Huge Hugs to you


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