Way back in 2014 I started this blog after deciding it was time to leave Facebook where I ran a similar site but with many more members. Sometimes what we start in one place doesn’t always translate well in another. I had to be prepared for that. When I started here I did so with the following explanation.
About The Buthidars
The Buthidars is a religion free Order where people of all ages, colours and creeds can come together as one all-inclusive group united towards seeing peace in the world.
You will hear ( from me ) about Hugs as I maintain you can’t hug with a weapon in your hands.
You will see the reason I think Hugs are important to us as people, ourselves and others.
You will I hope learn to understand why I ask people to leave religion at the door as they visit and if they still need it, to collect it at the door as they leave. So now you will see, as I promised why I use hugs at the end of posts and when I comment on a blog I visit,
The Buthidar Hugs
The Reasons we should hug.
When we hug, we receive an energy feedback. We bring life to our senses and
reaffirm the trust in our senses. Sometimes we CANNOT find the right words
to express how we feel, and then hugs are the best way to say it.
We need four hugs a day to survive, eight to preserve ourselves, and twelve to
grow. A hug makes you feel good. The skin is the biggest organ we have and it
needs a lot of love. A hug can cover an extensive part of the skin and provides
the massage you need. It is also a way to communicate. It can convey
messages for which you have no words. We can always resort to the universal
language of hugs.
The Power of Hugs Hugging achieves many things that you might never have
imagined. For example:
It feels good
It dissolves solitude
It defeats fear
It opens the door to sensations
It improves self-esteem (wow, he or she wants to hug me!)
It encourages altruism (I can’t believe it, but I want to hug that person)
It delays aging (those who hug age more slowly)
It helps reduce appetite (we eat less when we are nourished with hugs and
when our arms are wrapped around others)
More benefits from hugs:
It is environmentally friendly (it does not damage the environment)
It preserves energy
It is portable and requires no additional machinery
It does not require a special place to do it (an adequate place to hug)
In any place such as a conference room, a church or a football field
It makes happy days even happier
It gives us a sense of belonging
It fills the void in our lives
It is still effective even after the hugging has finished
It strengthens and increases our ability to share
It harmonizes the hearts of friends
Hugging creates some form of addiction to tenderness, to altruism, to
Just as laughter, it is highly contagious! Whatever your hug may be, let it
always come from the heart, not from the mind.
Come up with new ways of hugging.
Give your hugs interesting or funny names.
Become a full-time “hug therapist.”
Be always ready to offer a hug to someone.
Observe the other person and always be careful of his or her personal space.
A hug does and says very much.
My great hope when I moved to WordPress was that I could slowly create an order across the World that would perhaps equal the Order of St. Lazarus to which I belong. An order where there would always be someone willing and able to offer help wherever you are. An order where kindness is not just a word but a way of life. I want this to be the lesson we teach our children as we try to preserve the world to give them a future. In celebration of which I’d hoped to start with uniting people across the world in making as many people’s day special with a hugathon but the take up was pretty small and student bodies weren’t interested. If I’d only managed to convince enough people that they could work miracles in their own countries and perhaps their knowledge alone could help people in another. I want to stop FGM and forcing children as young as 12 from being forced to marry much older men. This latter I thought was peculiar to third world Countries but I found it was not. People have life skills they can use to help others or pass on to them. People whose marriages have broken up and they don’t know where to turn. There’s no problem that someone doesn’t know how to solve. I’m 70 years of age now and I haven’t given up hope yet. I know many of my friends on here share my wishes in one form or another and have shown exceptional kindness to others and for that I thank them. Together we can change the world.